How Do You Forgive When it's Not Deserved?

This was my big question writing today. Two beautiful abused characters are attempting to put their lives back together, and figure out how to move forward.

The greatest dilemma we all have is how to forgive when the person we need to forgive doesn't deserve it. Yep, been there done that. But I have seen things that are far worse than what I had to forgive. What about abuse? Slavery? I am sure you can think of some horrible things right about now that don't deserve forgiveness. I am not claiming to have the answers, but what I do know is that carrying around the hatred I had for a situation or person sucks the happiness out of me.

How did it get to the point where I would let someone else determine my happiness? Because ultimately that is what I am doing when I hold onto my hate. I am not saying forget, or to bring up the incident/person's sins at every opportunity. I am suggesting the very simple act of forgiving. To let go of the hate, let God fill you with hope, and push what is attempting to control your emotions where it belongs, in the past.

Like my two sweet characters Sagara and Bhavana, may you find the courage to walk down the path of forgiveness today.

John says it best:

1Jn 2:6 This is the way we may know that we are in union with him:

whoever claims to abide in him ought to walk just as he walked.

1 Jn 2:10-11 Whoever loves his brother remains in the light,

and there is nothing in him to cause a fall.

Whoever hates his brother is in darkness;

he walks in darkness

and does not know where he is going

because the darkness has blinded his eyes.